The problem with Stealth

There’s stealth, then deep stealth. There may be an even deeper level.

So effective these are, a new term for this kind of transwomen has become vogue: "Trap”

Transwomen running stealth or deep stealth sometimes (I hear) struggle because they have a secret that at some point is going to come to the surface and need explaining. Especially if the guy is straight.

That doesn’t mean a guy like me - one who is attracted to transwomen specifically - is gay. My orientation is a different orientation from gay or straight. Nothing more peculiar than a transwoman frankly.

So when a transwoman runs deep stealth, there may be some bonafide advantages, one of which is you get attention from straight guys. Probably a lot of attention. I’d love to hear some other advantages. More and better job offers? Less hassle?

One distinct disadvantage seems to be though that the men who likely would treat such women (treating them for who and what they are), are likely to overlook them, thinking they’re cis-gendered.

Should those who earn the coveted “passable” title be concerned? I think about this sometimes. I know some transwomen indeed see themselves as WOMEN (minus the trans if they could) and therefore want to have a relationship with a straight guy. Perhaps those who go full-op fit this variety as perhaps some others.

But I’m also sure there are transwomen who will gladly keep their penis, but would still like to be well treated (with respect, admiration and equality. I’m not talking about being lavished with wealth…what kind of respectful woman of ANY kind wants that? Oh, right. None). If that’s the desired outcome, why make it so difficult for someone who would accept them as they are to find them, by essentially making themselves invisible?

Open to hear others’ opinions here.