I need a woman who is sensitive, kind, sensual, loving, compassionate, understanding, and patient with me. Sex can come after that, if you like pre-op trans women. These days I also need somebody 420 friendly, only because it's the only thing that controls my anxiety anymore, especially living alone and single. If you want to help me with the alone and single part, let me know. you don't have to smoke to chill with me, as long as you're cool that I probably will. You do need to not smoke cigarettes though, unless it's vape. I don't have a car anymore, but I can host these days. Uber gets too expensive for me.
If interested in a committed/exclusive relationship, read the whole profile and pay special attention to the vegan section, this first paragraph above, and the last "general about you" section. otherwise, I'm also open to fwb if you are 420 friendly.
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I love sex of course, and I want sex too, but I don't like to do it with no strings. Whether I am looking for a partner in life, or a friend with benefits, I want a friend I can hang out with and get along with. I do not have online relationships, so if you are not willing or able to meet in person at some point at least, don't waste your time, or mine.
Sex without any kind of emotional connection does not appeal to me personally. I feel like I am pretty vanilla, but I am open to expanding my limits, just not my hard limits. On my own I am not very adventurous, but I am curious about a number of things and willing to at least try to learn. Just tell me what you are interested in when you message me, I like to be clear and open about my intentions from the start. also be aware, for the time being, I don't have a car.
**I'm Vegan**
I'm also vegan. After being exposed to information about how animals are actually treated, I have been really upset about animal abuse by the animal farming industry. If you don't like how I live, kick rocks. Also if you are not at least willing to try a vegan diet kick rocks. If you are interested, nutritionfacts.org has information about the health side of it, and the doctor who runs the site makes posts on a youtube channel of the same name as the website.
It's better for the animals of course and that is my personal main reason for being vegan, but it is also better for your own health and even better for the planet and resource consumption. We could feed more people if everybody was eating plants. These problems are just too important for it not to be an issue for anyone trying to date me.
**My Gender Identity**
I am a woman, specifically a trans woman, pre-op(I intend to get surgery, I just haven't yet), and not 100% passable. I have not seen all my full potential yet, but I do live as a woman full time.
**My Sexual Preference**
I am usually open to anyone if we are a good fit emotionally. Some people act like being bisexual somehow excludes trans men and trans women and I think that is ridiculous. I consider myself Pansexual which includes those who don't fit the binary that the term bisexual implies. I just try to be open to anyone until they start treating me bad. Any gender identity, any body type, basically any adult age, any "race" (there is only one race, the human race, we are all human, and if you disagree with me on this issue, that is fine, you have that right, and you also have the right to block me, please do).
**Your Sexual Preference**
Your sexual preference doesn't really matter unless it conflicts with who I am. What I mean is that if a woman says she is straight and wants to be with me, then that tells me she is disregarding my true gender identity. If the woman says she is bi/pan or lesbian(or if a man says he is bi/pan or straight), then there is no conflict because I am a woman and those all include me. If a man is gay and wants me, then I would have to question his motives as well, he may not respect me as a woman. So I guess the bottom line is think about your motives and be respectful.
**General About Me**
I am 5'10", 135lbs, long blond hair, 38 years old. I am currently living in Norfolk/Virginia Beach area. Treat me with respect, and I will do the same to you. I need a relationship built on mutual respect and honesty. I believe that honest and open communication is essential to a relationship, and is very important to me. I don't like to argue, but I am able to have a conversation with someone having a different opinion, so if you want a girl that will just agree with everything you say regardless of her own thoughts, then I might not be the right girl for you. I do have thoughts of my own sometimes. I don't smoke cigarettes or do any drugs, and I would prefer you didn't either. Just be 420 friendly. I believe weed can be medicine. If you smoke cigarettes and want to date me, I suggest switching to vapes or e-cigs. With vapes and e-cigs there is no smell, and I won't be able to taste it when I kiss you. I like to kiss too much for that not to be important. I am Orthodox Christian. There are a lot of assumptions people tend to make of Christians, some good, some bad, but please don't project any of that to me. Get to know me first. I make every effort to not judge others, so don't judge me. My religion is not something I constantly talk about, but it is also not a subject I will deliberately avoid, so if that is a problem, you have been warned. I want to give myself to someone who is just as committed and loyal to me as I am, and to still be by my side when I finally get my surgery. I want to find someone I can spend my life with.
I am open to poly relationships, even though I've never been in one. It probably depends on who I'm in the relationship with. I would probably want something close to a closed triad, or some form of polyfidelity.
**peace and long life**
**General About You**
If all you want is no strings attached sex, I am not interested.
*for relationship:* Always be honest with me, I want to be able to trust you. Don't smoke cigarettes. Don't do drugs. (must be 420 friendly though). At least be willing to try going vegan. Don't be racist.
*for fwb:* Again always be honest with me, you have no reason to lie to me ever. Don't smoke cigarettes. Don't do drugs (again weed is great, 420 friendly is a bonus). Don't be racist.
*for friends:* And again always be honest with me, it's like my number one thing to remember when talking to me, you have absolutely no good reason to ever lie to me. The second thing you need to remember when interacting with me on any level is don't be racist. Don't be hateful. If you feel some kind of way about certain races, religions, genders, LGBT, people from certain countries, then you need to do us both a favor and block me. I do not need that kind of negativity in my life. I do not want someone in my life that would judge someone based on something so superficial. Just block me and move one. I promise I will not miss you, not even a little.